It occurred to me this morning around
5:00 a.m that while I haven't been heartbreak-proof in my affairs I
haven't had it nearly as bad as most other people I know. I've heard
some horror stories that might scare you into becoming a hermit out
of fear.
There was a friend of mine who came
home to find his girlfriend having sex with his best friend and
brother at the same damn time. Needless to say, violence ensued.
Another time a young lady I was kind of mentoring told me about her
abusive boyfriend. We let her stay with us for a bit. Well one day
I'm at work and get a call to come home immediately. I get there and
Elouise, my wife, has the boyfriend in a wrist lock, on the ground
with her knee on the back of his neck (yes I was proud of her that
day) and he's begging for mercy. He apparently followed us and tried
to attack them while I was gone not knowing I've taught my wife quite
a bit of grappling. There's another friend of ours who was so in love
with the person causing her so much pain. Eventually it erupted into
violence (I'm noticing a theme here) and their separation. We weren't
as involved this time being in another city but, we at least talked
to her about it.
My own parents, though I love them
dearly, have a relationship I could never live with. They barely talk
to each other now. They don't sleep in the same bed, they don't watch
TV together, they don't even go out I don't think. They still love
each other, or say they do, but it's so...cold between them. The only
thing they are happy about is my marriage and how well it's going.
That's just a few stories, I could
tell you a lot more but, I'm not after shock and awe here. By
comparison, my love life has been pretty mundane as far as drama but
quite fulfilling in it's own right. No stories of cheaters or abuse.
I have felt my share of heartbreak and pain but nothing life
shattering like some others. Yeah, it can get very hard, very trying
but, all in all I've had relatively good experiences.
You recall I shut down my Facebook
profile a while back? That was probably the worst heartbreak I've
ever felt but, I had Elouise to help me through it. There was, of
course, when the woman we were dating had to leave the country. My
heart ached but, I knew she still loved us and didn't want to leave
us so I was able to handle it a bit better. Before that there was my
high school heartbreak which later turned out to be a dodged bullet,
her being a superchristian and me being a femsexual, polyamorous
atheist. Would not have meshed well.
That's it. That's the worst that has
ever happened to me. I know how fortunate I am to be able to say
that. Love and relationships for me have been easy relatively, and I
hope my good fortune holds. The way things have been going for me it
won't be long until I finally meet that other special woman and
welcome her into my life.
Live and Love Freely,
Everyone.
